Every year my birthday comes at the same time of year, that’s no surprise. But every year I seem to sing the blues because no one can attend my birthday celebration due to holiday commitments. So this year, I decided that I would follow through with planning a half birthday celebration. In doing so, I’ve begun to reflect on things that I’ve learned and things that I appreciate, recognizing that change is taking place. Realizing I may be at the half way point in life, the monumental teachable moments are too numerous to count. Let me share with you my top 10 things that I have learned by age 45. Well, actually there are 11 things. I couldn’t pick one to delete because they’re all important! I’m beyond thankful for my life.
1. Make the main thing, the main thing.
2. Run, run, run while you can! Whatever kind of exercise you love, do it and love it while your knees, feet, and ankles will allow you to. If you don’t exercise, you should! Get moving now. I’m so thankful that I’ve been dedicated to physical fitness for 20 years. No doubt at 45 your joints begin to feel it.
3. Spend time with your loved ones and ask them questions while you can. Write down the memories and the who and the why and the what is special about your family. At some point in time you’ll want to know and your kids will want to know too.
4. Whatever you say yes to, you say no to something else. Make your ‘yes’ count. Your time is so very precious.
5. Rest. Sleep does a body good and at 45 you need more. Rest takes the impact of stress whether physical or mental.
6. It’s ok to be vulnerable. We all have fears and insecurities and so does everyone else. You’re human.
7. If you don’t tell your money where to go, it will tell you. Get a handle on it and stick with it!
8. Use your vacation time, you’ve earned it. Take it and don’t feel guilty. If you don’t use it, you won’t get it back.
9. Ask yourself “the best question ever”: In light of my past experience, my present circumstances, and my future hopes and dreams, what’s the wise thing to do?
10. Body image can haunt many of us. Stop obsessing over it. Our health is worth much more than what we look like on the outside. God made you the way you are. Go with it and stop trying so hard to fit into someone else’s idea of what’s beautiful.
11. Love does. It’s not lip service. Love takes action, and does something even in the face of fear.